"I was a woman so from birth my designated role was motherhood...For the first time I have realised that I do not have to have children if I do not want to... having a choice should not be a f***ing privilege"
Tag: pregnancy
My Not Pregnancy – Part 8
Crap. We are here. This is the week; the milestone; 12 weeks. I spent the previous weekend in Wellington (New Zealand) for a friends wedding. As all my family are based in Wellington and my closest friends were going to be at this wedding, it was the perfect opportunity to let them know - this [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 7
Back to the real world and here we are on night shifts. It's week 11 and the nausea has been getting better, surely I can get my act together and start eating healthy now. As you might have noticed I've been living off pies, sausage rolls and juice so I really haven't been getting my [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 6
I'm Samoa this week for a family reunion. I definitely don't have my summer-bod up to date. I like to blame the life growing inside my belly, but unfortunately that life is only 10 weeks and the size of a kumquat as per parents.com so probably can't be to blame for all the abdominal softness [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 5
Disclaimer – I briefly reference abortion in this. I am both pro-life and pro-choice. I would never condone anyone for the choice they make when they find out they are pregnant. Each person is in completely different situations and I think people need to be compassionate and empathetic about other people's circumstances whilst simultaneously minding their own business. I am currently trying to come to terms with loss. Not physical loss - [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 4
I had a scan this week. Just to confirm a viable pregnancy and all those things. Apparently my baby should be the size of a raspberry right now, but judging by my stomach it's surely the size of a melon...maybe that's just the pies and sausage rolls talking. It took a ridiculous amount of time [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 3
Honestly, truly... I am absolutely terrified...I'm not ready
My Not Pregnancy – Part 2
The nausea is real. I always thought that the day I vomited was the day that I knew I was pregnant. I don’t drink alcohol (my own personal reasons) and I rarely have stomach bugs so I haven’t vomited since I was 13 and even then it was just dry retching from blood loss (a [...]
My Not Pregnancy – Part 1
I’ve always wanted to have a family, craved my own children really, but right here in this moment I’m not ready.
After the Miscarriage
It'll affect me at the most random times. When I least expect it, not when the young child is practicing his drawings with his mum, not when the pregnant woman rubs her protruding belly. Maybe because I've already hardened myself to those obvious triggers. I do a quick look, I don't linger, I don't think [...]